Romans 8:26-28
Message Version
Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.

Romans 8:26-28 New International Version
26 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. 27 And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Footnotes:
Romans 8:28 Or that all things work together for good to those who love God, who; or that in all things God works together with those who love him to bring about what is good—with those who love Him

Romans 8:26-28 The Passion Translation
26 And in a similar way, the Holy Spirit takes hold of us in our human frailty to empower us in our weakness. For example, at times we don’t even know how to pray, or know the best things to ask for. But the Holy Spirit rises up within us to super-intercede on our behalf, pleading to God with emotional sighs too deep for words.

27 God, the searcher of the heart, knows fully our longings, yet he also understands the desires of the Spirit, because the Holy Spirit passionately pleads before God for us, his holy ones, in perfect harmony with God’s plan and our destiny.

28 So we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God’s perfect plan of bringing good into our lives, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill his designed purpose.

Footnotes:
Romans 8:26 The Greek word hupererentugkhano is best translated “super [or hyper]-intercede for us.” We can only imagine how many blessings have poured into our lives because of the hyper-intercession of the Holy Spirit for us!
Romans 8:26 Or “groanings.” We find three groanings in this chapter. Creation groans for the glorious freedom of God’s children (v. 22), we groan to experience the fullness of our status as God’s children (v. 23), and the Holy Spirit groans for our complete destiny to be fulfilled (here).
Romans 8:27 Or “God, the heart-searcher.” God searches our hearts not just to uncover what is wrong, but to fulfill the true desire of our hearts to be fully his. Grace triumphs over judgment.

I believe that the groanings are indeed the Holy Spirit praying through us in tongues. When we don't know what to pray for, we can pray in tongues, in the Holy Spirit, because He knows and He knows how to pray. And then it works together for our good.

Jude 1:20 But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit,

Acts 2 (NKJV)
Coming of the Holy Spirit
2 When the Day of Pentecost had fully come, they were all with one accord in one place. 2 And suddenly there came a sound from heaven, as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled the whole house where they were sitting. 3 Then there appeared to them divided tongues, as of fire, and one sat upon each of them. 4 And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.

Mark 16:16-18 (NKJV)
16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned. 17 And these signs will follow those who believe: In My name they will cast out demons; they will speak with new tongues; 18 they will take up serpents; and if they drink anything deadly, it will by no means hurt them; they will lay hands on the sick, and they will recover.”

So what I see in these scriptures is NOT that "Whatever happens to us...no matter what it is...it was God's will for me and somehow...it will work together for my good."

That is a lie from the devil, that the church has believed for so many years it is alarming.

My Heavenly Father is a good God.  One of His Names is Love! And He would no more let evil things happen in my life, and expect me to accept it as from him, then my own earthly Father would have allowed evil in my life.

I know that tragedy happens in our lives, it has happened in my life.  I have lost family members and so has my husband, but that does not mean it was God's will.

Matthew 7:11
If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!

James 1:13-14
13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.

James 1:17
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.

We have the authority to speak the Word of God over every situation, and pray in tongues, so that no matter what the situation, God can turn it around, if we will trust Him.

Kenneth Copeland is the man of God that I consider my father in the Faith. These are questions and answers from his website. I feel it is worth sharing here.

Q: Is everything that happens to me God’s will?
A: Some believers think so. They often base this on their understanding of Romans 8:28: “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” You can see why this verse by itself could be used to teach that everything that happens to us is God’s will. However, when examined in context with the verses around it, we discover this verse has a very different meaning.

Let’s step back and read verse 28 with a couple of verses leading into it: “And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them” (Romans 8:26-28).

This gives us a clearer view of what God really wants us to know about these verses. Regardless of what is happening to us in this world, the Holy Spirit is standing in prayer for us that the will of the Father be done in our lives. In fact, the Bible teaches that we can actually partner with the Holy Spirit in prayer and pray for our own lives and the lives of others (1 Timothy 2:1).

Adversity is unavoidable. But God can and will turn our adversities to our good when we submit ourselves to His direction. The Apostle Paul said we have enemies which are not flesh and blood but are principalities, powers, rulers of darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12). When being attacked by the forces of darkness, Christians must not sit in complacency, but rather submit themselves to God and resist the devil (James 4:7).

In short, Romans 8:28 is a reminder that regardless of what the enemy throws our way, God is on the throne and Jesus is Lord!

Q: What does it mean to take part in Christ’s suffering?
A: When the Word says we are to be partakers of Christ’s suffering, it simply means we are to enter into the victory that Jesus bore for us on the cross (1 Peter 4:13). As we enter into that victory, we encounter spiritual warfare. That’s where the sufferings come from—standing against the forces of evil. Resisting the pressures of life may bring about some physical discomfort, but the sufferings are mainly spiritual sufferings and not physical sufferings such as sickness or disease. Jesus already bore for us all the suffering in the physical and mental realm so we could be free (John 8:36; Galatians 3:13-14)

That’s what the Apostle Paul talks about in Romans 8:17-18 when he says we are to suffer with Him so we can be glorified together with Him. According to Romans 6:3-4 and Galatians 2:20, we were with Jesus when He suffered on the cross. That work is complete. Now it is time to be glorified! Jesus is not suffering physically or mentally anymore. He is seated at the right hand of God the Father, expecting His enemies to be made His footstool (Hebrews 10:12-13).

As His Body in this earth, we stand against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against wicked spirits in high places (Ephesians 6:12). God’s glory is revealed in us when we resist Satan. God receives glory when we are delivered and reign victorious in this life. If you are in the midst of a trial, know that God wants you to use the spiritual weapons He has provided to give you the victory (2 Corinthians 10:3-5; Ephesians 6:11-17).

Satan will do his best to keep you from enjoying your victory. But as you receive revelation knowledge, you will be lord over him, and his tactics to put you under the law of sin and death will not work (Romans 8:2). That’s why James says, “When troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing” (James 1:2-4). What a wonderful place to be—needing nothing because we have it all in Jesus!